EFT Couple Therapy
Reconnect, Repair, and Feel Close Again
Love doesn’t have to feel so hard. Let’s help you find your way back to each other.
You love each other, but it feels like you’re speaking different languages.
You’re trying. You both care. But somehow, things keep spiraling……
The harder you try to explain how you feel, the more misunderstood you seem.
The more you ask for closeness, the more your partner pulls away — or vice versa.
“We keep having the same fight over and over.”
“I feel alone even when we’re in the same room.”
“We love each other, but it’s like we don’t know how to connect anymore.”
Maybe you’ve grown up in families where emotions weren’t openly expressed — where silence meant love, and being “strong” meant not showing vulnerability.
And for some couples, there are additional layers:
Cultural differences or family expectations that add pressure
Neurodivergent ways of relating that are misunderstood
Parenting, life stress, or old wounds that resurface in conflict
Now, in your relationship, these ingrained habits and added pressures show up in the hardest moments.
You shut down when things get tense, and your partner says you don’t care.
You ask for more closeness, but they withdraw, and you feel more alone.
You try to talk about hard things, but it always ends in a fight or distance.
The cultural differences, in-law expectations, or past hurts just make it all feel heavier.
You might wonder:
“Why do we keep missing each other?
“Why do I always have to be the one to fix this?”
“Are we too different to make this work?”
“Can we get back to the way we used to be — or something even better?”
And beneath the arguments? There’s longing. A desire to feel accepted, wanted, treasured, and close again — even if you’ve never had that modeled before.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
— real change, rooted in connection
I help couples move from conflict and disconnection to emotional safety, trust, and closeness using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — a deeply researched, attachment-based model.
As a Chinese immigrant therapist and partner in a biracial relationship, I bring both professional expertise and firsthand experience to our work together. I deeply understand how cultural expectations, family traditions, and unspoken loyalties shape your relationship, as well as the unique challenges and strengths that come from navigating multiple identities and cultures within a partnership.
I hold space for how love, loyalty, and silence show up differently in every relationship — especially when cultural and neurodiverse differences add layers to your story.
In therapy, we don’t just learn to “communicate better” — we work to rebuild emotional safety, interrupt painful cycles, and restore the bond between you.
Whether you're dating, married, rebuilding after a betrayal, or navigating cultural or neurodivergent differences, or simply feeling stuck, I offer a safe and supportive space to slow down and really see each other again.
Together, I can help you:
Break the cycle when you keep fighting, shutting down, or feeling misunderstood — especially if you both experience things differently
Really understand what each of you is feeling and needing, even if your backgrounds, cultures or brains are different
Say what you need in a way your partner can hear and understand — whether you express emotions openly or keep things inside
Build trust again and feel safe with each other, even if you’ve been hurt before or faced betrayal
Handle cultural, racial, or language differences with kindness, so they don’t push you apart
Support each other’s unique way of thinking and your cultural identities, while learning how to connect better
Grow closer and feel loved, even if you didn’t see that kind of love growing up
“Therapy helped us see that underneath all the fights, we were both just scared of losing each other.”
“It gave us a language to talk about things we didn’t even know how to name before.”
Imagine feeling like you’re on the same team again — understood, supported, and emotionally connected.
Services Overview
Therapy Services
Therapy for Chinese and Asian Americans (中文 / English)
Neurodiversity-Affirming Individual and Couple Therapy
EFT Couple Therapy
Family Therapy
